EVER EVER AFTER
We live in a time where divorce and marriage
are words which are always used together. It is the peanut butter and
jelly of the modern day. Marriage is something that should be one of the
happiest events in a person’s life. The day that two people decide to
spend eternity together is an amazing day. But even when a couple seems
perfect, divorce stains the beauty of the day.
My cousin and I attended a beautiful wedding of
one of our mutual friends. They were a young couple who had gotten
pregnant and were therefore getting married so that the baby could grow up in a
solid family situation. After the ceremony, my cousin leaned over and
whispered, “I give them 6 months, max.” I went along with the
conversation and agreed that the couple didn’t seem likely to make it to their
next anniversary. Now thinking back, I realize how sad the conversation
was. Even at the wedding, the ugly topic of divorce weaseled its way into
the conversation.
Our society has slipped so swiftly down an
awful path that we almost don’t realize what it is doing to our perception on
relationships. As I was reading The State of our Unions: Marriage in
America 2012* I saw something that made me do a double take. On page 88,
it talked about how our chances of divorce are smaller than we think.
This information was new to me and made me stop and re read the
graph. It went on to talk about how if one was an educated, religiously
affiliated, established person, the chances of getting a divorce were lowered
nearly 50%! And for most people, the chances of getting a divorce are
actually well below the 50/50 mark. Why is the negative side of the issue
so much easier to see than the positive side? Why do we lack the
hope and faith in marriage? Why do we forget how vital marriage is to
society and to the development of children?
I
believe if we focus on the success rate rather than the failure rate of
marriages, we will be able to salvage our rough marriages and our hope will
also build others up to succeed in their marriage struggles
as well. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on
principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love,
compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities. **We
just have to wake up every morning and make the choice to be happy. We can choose to hate our situation or we can
choose to make the best of it. Remember
why you chose to marry your significant other and seek Gods help to make the
best out of the situation you have. And if
everything goes well. You can always
have the happily ever after you have dreamed of.
***
*http://www.stateofourunions.org/2012/social_indicators.php#divorce
** https://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation?lang=eng
*** http://www.meetthebestyou.com/25-amazing-quotes-about-love-well-never-get-tired-of/
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